So what I'm about to talk about has nothing to do with the book world, although I know that similar issues arise in all areas of life. One of the biggest issues plaguing my day-to-day lately has been drama. I. HATE. DRAMA. There are people that I've stopped speaking to in the last several years because they carry drama with them everywhere, like a blanket of hate that they just drape all over everything and everyone around them. It's exhausting, unnecessary and completely childish.
I like to think that I can conduct myself fairly well as an adult and handle my relationships as such. I don't like confrontation, but I'm not afraid of it either. If I have a problem with someone, I try to talk it out because you never know when there's just a misunderstanding. However, I'm also one of the rare breed of people who can separate their work life and personal life. This means that if I have a disagreement with someone on a working matter, it likely will not carry over outside of work because I don't tend to bring work home with me if I can help it. I'm realizing that this is a rarity.
One of my faults is honesty. I say this is a fault because people DO NOT like honesty. It often hurts or makes them uncomfortable. I just prefer not beating around the bush because, well, what's the point? We're all adults, right? Shouldn't we be able to handle criticism by now? Shouldn't we be able to differentiate between constructive and destructive criticism? Am I just living in La-La Land? Is there some unspoken rule that I don't know about which dictates that this thinking is wrong?
Each day, I have to remind myself that there are people who can't, don't or won't see things this way. These people aren't wrong, but different and that's okay. I guess what boggles my mind is the reluctance to adapt to change and overcome challenges that exist in the real world. I don't understand how these things are feared. I don't understand how people are so frightened of something as silly as switching from writing something on paper to typing it in an email because heaven forbid it's not the same as it used to was (improper grammar intended). It just doesn't make any sense.
In closing, CHANGE IS GOOD! Change makes the world go 'round. Without change, we wouldn't be where we are technologically or socially, for that matter (although one might argue not ALL of the social change has been good). If nothing ever changed, nothing would ever get done. It's just that plain and simple. With that being said, the number one thing that requires change is often ourselves. Whether we realize it or not, we must continue to evolve as individuals in order to survive and that's just the way it is. If I didn't evolve, I wouldn't be able to form intelligent and legible sentences or thoughts. If I didn't evolve, I wouldn't be able to properly mother my children or wife-like to my husband. Most of all, if I haven't evolved, I wouldn't see these problems existing around me on a daily basis. Unfortunately, we can't force anyone to see these things or to do anything to change them. All we can do is look inside and use what we know to keep moving forward in spite of the stunted environments around us.
It ain't pretty, but it's life.
What are your thoughts?
I'm a writer, a mother, a wife, a friend, a sister, and a daughter. My journey as a published author is in full swing and I'm inviting all my friends along for the ride!